Monthly Archives: November 2011

to kvetch or not to kvetch

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I made a decision sometime this past year.  No complaining.  No complaining even about complaining.

This decision came on the heels of my decision not to watch the news, and for the most part unplugging from unpleasant media.  No more excursions through the interstices of other peoples bodies on CSI.  No more luxuriating in a good kvetch.

I thought of writing about it:

  1. The Kvetcher’s Handbook
  2. Kverching A-Z
  3. Kvetching for Beginners
  4. Chicken Soup for Kvetchers
  5. A Rough Guide to Kvetching

There is something about the old habit of the whine that is hard to shake.  I would like to complain about a number of things:  fracking, horse slaughter, child trafficking.  I know that when the election heats up there will be a lot of complaining.

But I want to feel good, and complaining feels like it empties me out – darkens me at the cellular level.  So I don’t (as best I can).  When my friends start to complain, I find myself suddenly late for an appointment.  When I feel the pull of Whineland, I take myself somewhere else.  Look at the view, change my orientation, pet a cat.  Make a cup of dong ding.

How do you cope?

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the performative face

Photo:  Pam White;  Paula Josa-Jones in DIVE

This week in The Journal, I am writing about identity and what I call the cage of concealment.  What came up for me when I went to have new head shots taken.

It is about that dance between what we conceal (from ourselves, from others) and what we reveal.  How I (we?) edit the details and tweak the image.

This photograph is part of a series that was taken during a shoot for a videodance performance.  I am deep in that dance here – showing and not showing.

More about that Sunday.  In The Journal.

What are you revealing today?

thanks & giving 2

Jerry Hicks died on November 18.  I am immensely appreciative of everything that this beautiful man has given.  His wife, Esther, says that he will continue to give, but from the point of view of source, rather than his physical form.

I listened to a meditation from Abraham on relationship this morning.  The suggestion was to appreciate what is there in the other person, rather than resenting what is not there.

Instead of focusing on the qualities that you want to see but don’t, imagine that they are there. That feels to me like a way of giving, both to the other person and to myself; allowing them to be more than what I can see right now from my limited perspective.

What are you giving today?