Monthly Archives: January 2012

don’t have back surgery

Back pain

Yesterday a good friend of my daughter’s, a 20 year-old young man, had back surgery for ongoing back pain.  When he came out of the surgery, he was paralyzed on one side.  They went back in and when he came out the second time, he was paralyzed from the neck down.  Then he went into a coma.

A few weeks before that, the companion of a friend of ours became paralyzed because of complications from several old back surgeries.

When I had a bodywork practice, the most horrific cases I treated were always those of those who had  back surgery.  The worst pain, the most compromised movement.

Our friend, the osteopath Dr. Andy Goldman, says that if only people with back pain would see an osteopath first, often they could avoid the surgery. By the time they come to him after the surgery, it is usually too late.

The web genius Seth Godin wrote this post recently.  (I left in his other tips because they are excellent as well.)

  1. No stranger or unknown company will ever contact you by mail or by phone with an actual method for making money easily or in your spare time. And if the person or company contacting you asserts that they are someone you know, double check before taking action.
  2. Don’t have back surgery. See a physiatrist first, then exhaust all other options before wondering if you should have back surgery.  (I would suggest an osteopath first, based on my personal experience). 
  3. Borrow money to buy things that go up in value, but never to get something that decays over time.
  4. Placebos are underrated by almost everyone.
  5. It’s almost never necessary to use a semicolon.
  6. Seek out habits that help you overcome fear or inertia. Destroy those that do the opposite.
  7. Cognitive behavorial therapy is generally considered both the quickest and most effective form of addressing many common psychological problems.
  8. Backup your hard drive.
  9. Get a magnetic key hider, put a copy of your house key in it and hide it really well, unlabeled, two blocks from your house.
  10. A rice cooker will save you time and money and improve your diet, particularly if you come to like brown rice.
  11. Consider not eating wheat for an entire week. The results might surprise you.
  12. Taking your dog for a walk is usually better than whatever alternative use of your time you were considering.

 

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taxi wisdom

I was in New York City today for the third time this week.  It was cold and dark when I caught the 6:50 train.  I had brought some editing and got into a fabulous focus flow with my two seatmates who were both buried in their Kindles.

The train was delayed by 40 minutes, and I was walking fast when a taxi unloaded its passenger right in front of me, so I flagged him down.  He was a lovely Sikh gentleman, and because I have a long and deep relationship with India and Nepal, we began to talk.

He said what a beautiful day it was.  How many people do not notice the beauty of the day and the simple pleasures of the sun and just being alive.  He talked about people living in India who seem often so much happier even though they are poorer by far.   He talked about spirit and appreciation and happiness pretty much for the whole trip, which was not long, and I felt pretty blissful by the time we reached my destination.

As I got out of the taxi, I realized that I had just experienced a rampage of appreciation.   Have a listen.

on not figuring it out

Photo:  Claire Glover

Amadeo is my talented, complicated 17 year-old Andalusian gelding.  I have had him since he was 8, when I imported him from Spain.  He has never been an easy ride for me, and about six months ago, he made the decision that he did not want me to ride him.  To be more specific, he decided that only Brandi Rivera, his very talented trainer (and mine) should ride him.  We confirmed all of this with an animal communicator. She told us that he wanted to show off his skill and beauty, which includes the gorgeous flying changes, pirouettes and half passes that he is doing.

Brandi is now pregnant and not riding.  So Amadeo, this brilliant and opinionated horse, is unemployed.  And because he is not turned out with another horse because he can get rambunctious, he is both unemployed and lonely.

My happiest scenario for Amadeo is that someone would love him, like to lease him and enjoy riding and spending time with him. Deo loves to work – he enjoys that connection with himself and a rider – he is just very specific about how that looks and feels.  I love him, but I am not that rider – something that has taken me some time and some tears to accept.  If you are interested in meeting Deo, you can see him here, and follow that contact information.

My challenge in all of this is to not obsess about figuring out what will happen next for Deo.  To not focus on what is making me unhappy, but to feel my way toward a beautiful outcome for both of us.  And to keep all of that general, because getting specific creates more thinking, more working at it, more obstacles.

improvisation life

Improvisation life is not just about following the muse or being an artist.  Or about spontaneity or creativity.

It is about our choices and how we make them.  About focus.  About cultivating a continuous, flexible thread of attention to what we love.  About deep listening (see Pauline Oliveros).  About waking up to what is here right now, in this moment.  About unexpected ways of dancing with what is.

Beginning Monday, I am teaching a five-week guided meditation on moving into an improvisational life.  This is some of what I will be including:

  • ways to nourish and embody your creative practice
  • suggestions for how to reduce the commute between art and life
  • playful, improvisational ways to deepen your work and relationships
  • specific improvisational practices for movement and writing (music, painting)

Registration closes on Friday.  You can sign up here

Questions?  Leave a comment and I will respond.