Author Archives: Paula Josa-Jones

snowhorse, snowBuddha

I love how the snow horse, with its white mane is leaping from its wave of snow and how the Buddha is nestled neck deep.

I grew up in Minnesota and South Dakota and so big snow feels sweetly familiar.  Memories of carving snow caves and snow bridges and shooting down deeply blanketed hills on long toboggans.

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cats (lovely Eli still looking for a home)

 I had to share this poem from The Writer’s Almanac.  Eli, pictured above, is still looking for a home.  We think now that he will do fine with dogs, which we weren’t sure of before. He is a sweet, affectionate guy, just looking for the right, loving person and home.  Several of out eight cats are unkind to him, and we feel he deserves better than we can provide.  Can you help?

cats and you and me

by Charles Bukowski

the Egyptians loved the cat
were often entombed with it
instead of with the child
and never with the dog.

and now
here
good people with
the souls of cats
are very few

yet here and now many
fine cats
with great style
lounge about
in the alleys of
the universe.

about
our argument tonight
whatever it was
about
and
no matter
how unhappy
it made us
feel

remember that
there is a
cat
somewhere
adjusting to the
space of itself
with a calm
and delightful
ease.

in other words
magic persists with
or without us
no matter how
we may try to
destroy it

and I would
destroy the last chance for
myself
that this might always
continue.

snowmageddon, riding lessons

I checked the weather online yesterday because I heard that there was snow coming.  I was concerned because I am having a minor procedure in the hospital tomorrow morning.  Our corner of Connecticut was obscured by lurid graphics, so it was impossible to tell if we are in the 6-12 zone or the 12-24 zone.

I think that I am going to take a page from my Buddhist friend here with the jaunty cap of snow.  Just sit and breathe and let it all happen around me with equanimity.  That is happening more easily for me since I got back from Georgia and my mind and body expanding time with Mark Rashid.

Yesterday, I was riding Capprichio, my lovely black Andalusian stallion.  He has a tendency to yaw on the bits, and pull and generally use his big neck to brace.  He also has a history of suspensory ligament injuries and is twenty one years old, so it is important that I ride him as well as possible, and help him to not hollow his neck and brace his jaw.  We started off in the usual way – a minor pulling contest, and I thought why not try the softening strategy that I learned from Mark.  The conversation went a little like this:

“How about this?” as I halted and asked him with a very gentle contact (.5) to stay soft in the bridle.

“No, I don’t think so.”  He stuck his head straight out and set his jaw.

“Well, let’s try this instead.”  I softly tipped his nose to the side, and when he gave, softened my hands toward the bridle without giving away the reins.  I looked for that warm water flowing toward his mouth that I felt with Mark.

“That’s not bad.”  He softened his neck and then I felt him shift back so that his back came up.

“Beautiful.  Let’s try that again.”  We walked off together, then halted, shifted back and walked forward again.

“Hey,  that’s nice.”  He stayed soft in the bridle and moved forward in a smooth chewy walk.

“Thank you,”  I said.  ” I like this much better.”

“Good job.  I think you might be getting it,” he replied.

get peripheral

Since my clinic with Mark Rashid, I have been feeling that I have more of myself available.  Something about softening my connections with my horses and breathing more has opened my senses out.  It began with my eyes.  During the clinic, he had me trot – a big, lusty working trot from one point to another in the big paddock.  I had to focus on a destination and Go There!  Now!  He wasn’t fooling around.

In the course of doing that, I noticed something interesting.  My peripheral vision opened out and I started to see all the way to the edges of things – not just the spot I was headed,  but all around.  Then I noticed that my other senses were opening too:  I was hearing more, listening out to the far corners of sounds, feeling more inclusively, smelling and tasting with more sensitivity.

That came home with me.  I am feeling more ease, more pleasure, more vitality.  And that aliveness is seeping into my riding and my writing – I feel more improvisational and curious about how changing one thing opens new possibilities.  I am riding on feel, not habit.  Working on my book, I am writing with more abandon.

Can you be peripheral in all of your senses?